STRANGER THINGS HAVE HAPPENED: A Bittersweet Re-connection; part 3


I woke smiling but a little less excited.. My turbulent desires has dissipated some..

I could now think much clearer about his proposal without the inference of my raging desires … I now have no conflict with my emotions..

I was still feeling flattered , honored  and really good that he wanted to see me  and must find me a little physically attracted to make the suggestion  for having sex.. I was very aware that he meant just sex…

The thought of him even physically attracted to me was very delightful to me…

So I’m here going over our conversation.. and I’m having mixed feelings.. I decided to do a pros and cons …

Hahahaha… all my pros are the same. I only have one..

” I want him!! I want him!!! I really want him!!

But my cons.. I have a few..

  1. Pros ..I want to..
  2.            I really want to..
  3.             Love to love on him..
  4.              So sexually stimulated by him..


  1. don’t want to get hurt again…
  2. -afraid (of vengeance).. he will mess me up
  3. – he doesn’t really find me attractive..
  4. -don’t want to  get emotionally attached again…
  5. Don’t trust his identity

By vengeance I mean.. he might still be hurt about my game of deception.. and literally hurt me sexually.. to get back at me.. that statement about raw, dirty and no rules sex… have me a little scared and questioning his real intention…

That photo he had up .. keep coming to mind.. and I still am not too sure why he choose to use that particular photo.. it just doesn’t sit well with me..

If only he wanted me two years ago..
I would have jump at the chance..  And enjoy that one night of passionate loving…


I also know that him seeing  me..will be a one night affair. Could I deal with that… would that be enough for me…??

I go off thinking.. what if he likes me.. if he sees me.. what if he love my passionate lovemaking..

Do I want to take that chance on him????  Hmm 😒..

I was feeling a little excited with the thought.. but still apprehensive 😩

All questions… without any real answers..and I don’t want to go presuming.. so I better think about what’s the best approach for me..

He is no guarantee ..

So… I think and I think..

over the next few days.. waiting impatiently for him to check Back with me.

I went through my emotions..I was  torn between accepting his offer.. which was causing great havoc on my raging desires.. just the thought was making me so highly stimulated and sending  shocking waves of sweet  emotional sensations ..running through every vein in me..

On the flip side… I have all this reservations that I just couldn’t ignore.. And this time my heart is very weak against the logic of my head..  

And I even went back as far as to that very first night when we first connected… two years ago…

His reasons for being online.. ” to see if there was girls looking for some dicks”..

I had found it amusing back then and even laughed it off.. So what’s would be so different now with his approach.. isn’t this what probably brought him back on???  And if I didn’t play that game of an innocent 😇 naive young girl.. wouldn’t he have suggested this same thing to me????
Hmm 😒..

And I still think he is married.. he never quite said.. because I never quite asked..

I was just too taken up playing my deceiving game trying to hold on to him a little longer… until it spiraled way out of control..

And I remember his preferences and likes in a girl.. tall … thin.. and young..

I’m none of those .. I couldn’t play in his likes.. and quite frankly.. he doesn’t really know my sexual appeal .. . I was never that open or playful with him for him to see and know this side of me ..I was always much too busy playing the role of a naive  young  inexperience virgin….

With all this thinking and doubts.. I come to the conclusion… that I need to walk away.. and let him go…
I have way too much to lose.. and I have taken a long time to reach to this level.. where I can think of him with a smile without being overly emotional..

My feelings for him is still so strong.. but I have accepted his rejections And his absence… I also have accepted I’m the One that messed up.. and mostly have to be blamed for his disappearance for the last two years..

Oooooh how I wanted him.. and I still do .. but I just have to leave it in the past… and try not to mar what we had.. 

I have waited all week.. anticipating his checking in..I told myself I will give him until the weekend… come Friday night.. I waited to see a text.. but none came..

I woke Saturday… and my mind was so consumed with thoughts of him..

I wanted so much to give him my answer.. so I decided to text him before he checked in. I have a little  thought.. that maybe he has a change of heart and that his suggestions/proposal… was just a spontaneous gesture..  and he probably having second thoughts..

I will give him a way out.. Put his mind at ease…

So I sent him a text..

“Hey  .. MYSWEET Allen…

I have been waiting all week for you to come back for the Answer to your proposal. I’m going to save you the text .I have been doing some thinking and I’m so elated that you even suggested it.

But I have  to declined very reluctantly and hesitantly.. too much is at stake for me.. and to be honest and be truthfully..

I have never quite gotten over you.. stranger things have happened.. and I have always believed.. you would have come back to me.. and here you are.

one text from you.. Is worth the time away.. what might have been ain’t worth a dime..
I just had hope someday I’d talk to you again..some other place some other time… there will never be another you for me.. but.. I have accepted my loss..

and as much I want you.. Oooooh how I want you..  I know you couldn’t want me..

…and seeing you would only cause me excruciating pain all over again…and making love.. or having sex… will Only allow me to get more emotionally attached..

so I’m going spare me all that hurt  ..And accept my fate.. and walk away ..

And just keep reliving over and over again and again that most awesome and amazing experience of a most glorious magical and passionate love ❤ that was ours…

Thank you so much for coming back on .. and give me this Joyous pleasure to re-connect again even for just a moment..
I will love you 😘 forever… it was a divine bliss..
Loving you might have been a mistake but it was worth making”…

He answered… this is what he had to say…

“Thank you for your honesty. I might have created fate knowing the outcome. I hope you approve. I’m glad you came to the right conclusion either way…. it says tons about your emotional / moral compass. Have a great weekend!”

I did not understand what he was trying to say.. about creating fate and knowing the outcome…

I didn’t respond until Monday.. I read his answer over and over again..trying to figure it out.. but still couldn’t get what he meant…

so I just ignore the statement… and when I replied to him.. I did not mention it..

“Happy Monday my allen..

I hope my decision
Will not mean that we stop communicating once in a while…

My weekend was filled with thoughts of you..
Hoping that I really made the right choice..

During the struggles of deciding I sometimes felt I would be strong enough to sustain the hurt… just to get the pleasure of having you close and experience the joy of you ..for one glorious night…’

And I so vividly remembers when you walked away two years ago.. that excruciating pain I felt.. how devastated and shattered I was..

I know ….I Didn’t want to go there again..

All in all my allen…
The choice is made.. and our fate is set..

We had it all December 2014…
And we will never be the same again.
And we will never feel love like that again…

(here’s a secret you need to know..

I carry your heart… in my heart…)

Goodbye doesn’t mean forever..
All my life I have waited for a love like this. To come and stay..and I had found you.. but I made you slip away…
But the good things you do and say will always stay with me..  ”

He responded that …of course we will talk once in a while….

I just told him I would love that…


I really feel like I have lost him again… but this time I made the choice to walk away.. I feel like I finally had a closure.. and I’m really hoping he stays on the app for a while  so he will always be just a text away.

Everyone known someone they can’t help but want…and even though we just can’t make it worked out .. the want to .. just  lingers on..  so sometimes I find myself pretending that it’s right ..I know it’s wrong but it isn’t easy moving on…

Maybe my heart will never mend…but I’m so glad for all the good times … he brought me so much  sunshine..Love was the best it ever been..and I wouldn’t have missed it for the world..

I will still occasionally say HI… but for the most part I will leave him alone.. It’s over..  loving him was easier than anything I will ever do again.. we don’t have tomorrow but we had that most wonderful memories in time …when we had it all ..when love was the best it’s ever been…


93 thoughts on “STRANGER THINGS HAVE HAPPENED: A Bittersweet Re-connection; part 3

  1. i think you took a good decision .. ofcourse certain decision are hard to take but at the end of the day it will give you good results .. i could understand the chaotic situation u were in , the confusions in your mind and emotions which you held back ..

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  2. It’s a hard decision. I would have met him and kiss him. That’s all . The kiss will tell me if I want to proceed or not. If they don’t feel anything the kiss will be a give away 😊

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    1. Aaaah miss dewy I thought hard about it..
      But I know I just couldn’t stop at a kiss 😘.. I just couldn’t .. I want him too much…
      and have here so close and watch him leave.. wanting more..
      I know I would have crushed .. and as much As would have enjoyed him .
      The imprint of him walking 🚶🏻 away. Would be devastating..I just didn’t want to put myself through that kind of anguish…

      I was very tempted though ..
      so very tempted…
      and sometimes I question my decision..
      and hoping I made the right choice..

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      1. You did make the right choice. I’m the type that go for the all or nothing. It hurts bad after but just to be close to that person to smell them one more time . To touch the contour of their face. To just look at them. I’m a goner 😊

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        1. Hahahaha..

          Miss dewy.. you are a sentimentalist like me..

          I have done that in past.. thinking it will worth all the hurt that comes after.
          And yes the little joy is worth Well worth it..
          what’s the use when you know the outcome.. when there not a glimpse of hope.. when you created fate .. knowing that outcome.. ( I think I just figured out his meaning..) haha…

          It’s was just too predictable…

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                1. Yep … totally agreed..
                  I was. A bit skeptical about his identity too..
                  didn’t trust him to be who I thought he was..
                  I have pictures of him that might not be him..
                  I did create an image of him that I idolizes…
                  so thank you for convincing me that I made the right choice

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                    1. Hey dewy..
                      we actually spoke and I sent my story.. ( this story)..
                      after he read it .. he redeemed himself.. didn’t want me think he was fake.. sent a picture of him holding a paper 📝 with my name on it..

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                    2. Not photoshopped? 😂 I had a guy sent me his licence once with his photo on it. This was back in the days of java chat with no photos or webcam.


  3. reactionarytales

    Hello there. Thanks for the follow. I just binge read all three parts of your reconnection and I want to cry and hug you at the same time. I’ve had a sort of similar experience in the past but was lucky enough to have a happy outcome. I am proud of you though. You have an inner strength most people don’t know they have and it’s a great quality. Cheers to you and I can’t wait to see what your future holds 🙂

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    1. Oooooh thank you….
      But we talked yesterday and I sent him that story..
      He didn’t like the fact that I thought he was a fake so me a photo of him holding a paper with my name… to prove to me that he was really the person I know..

      We agreed to continued as friends although he’s feeling I’m hurting and carrying too much pain..and think it’s best he disappear again…

      He confessed that he still a little hurt 😭 and little a little drawn to me..
      so. We will see..

      Thanks so much reading and liking my story.
      And your choice is truly appreciated..
      I’m smiling huge..

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      1. reactionarytales

        I see. I feel for you. Again, I went through a sort of similar experience with my now husband. We met online, dated for a while, broke up, got back together again, seperated again and now we’re married. However this turns out for you, I hope in the end that you are happy. 🙂

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  4. I loved reading all the parts. Chose to comment on the abrupt end cause I feel this was needed on your part. It’s great that you vent out your experiences and I hope there’s a lot better for you in store. 😊

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  5. Oh my gosh you are so strong, I also think you made the right choice, the attachment may have always held you back, you would be stuck in that one position always waiting. But a beautiful experience. We always know I our heart the right decision and maybe that just felt right for you. I loved this ending! So poetic ❤


  6. tarnishedsoul

    Oh my gosh I hate it when my wants and desires are working against me…
    I think the decision was best for you, my wonderful Nita! Hopefully it set well with you in the long run.

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    1. Oooooh tarnished… thanks for you moral support…
      I know it will …
      sometimes we just have to walk away the The one we love..,
      It just made sense to create a fate knowing the outcome..
      It is much too predictable..

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    1. Smiling huge..
      I wAs more than tempted though..
      And I’m still wondering if I actually did make the right choice..

      But it’s done.. and thanks so much for approving my choice..
      I really needed to hear that…

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  7. u2hearts

    Wow, something made me make sure to read this blog. So glad I found this. It was like kmy conscience speaking to me. Thank you for sharing and for making the right decision. .

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  8. Absolutely loved this post. It’s the first of yours I have read and it gripped me. Very insightful writing and really connected. I imagine many readers have walked away from a relationship that they felt intense pull from but knew it was wrong direction leading to heartache. How many have attended a reunion to hear those words “I had a big crush on you” back then and heard the disappointment and hurt in those words?

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    1. Oops 🙊!!
      Anyways if you scroll down to my previous posts..
      you will come across our story..


      It wasn’t a big struggle for me to declined..
      but as you said..
      it would have only lead to more heartaches..

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  9. It sounds like you made the right choice, especially since his identity is still uncertain. For all you know, he’s as old as the hills or as young as a budding teen. You never know who’s out there in cyberspace when you’re just texting, or typing messages online.

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        1. Yep 👍… lessons learned..
          I have never tried that again.. and will never.
          Who knows that I was going to find love…
          it’s really hard to recover from the image and face of someone you think you fell in love with 😍..and redirect that feeling to some completely different…
          and the lies that goes with it.. is very damaging..

          I know we couldn’t be together after that..
          that visual of that girl I gave him.. will always be a shadow/ ghost..
          I wouldn’t be able to get pass the fact.. that he loved her..
          I still looked at her sometimes and get so jealous 😒 .. even envious.. and she got nothing to with my enormous deception..

          Believe me..
          I will never do that again…
          you just can’t predict how connected you will be…

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  10. Oh Nita, this has been a wonderful story to follow. 😘 Although the ending may not have been the one you wanted, it does feel like you made the right decision. I do love the way you have chronicled this journey and now have something of scrapbook to come back to and reminisce when the feeling strikes you.💞 You are special woman and divine bliss will find you again🌹

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    1. Oooooh Michael… Michael.
      You can always put this smile on my face.. .. and I love it so when you make these most beautiful comments and make me seems so divine..

      I’m waiting for that divine bliss.. to strike again…

      And you are so right about my reminiscing every time I go feel like I’m missing him..

      How I wish I could hurt like that again…


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