TRUST AND SHARING…..

BEAUTIFUL SUNSET 🌇

Building a relationship is never easy… when you meet someone… there is a sweet kind of excitement.. and the desire to be with that person is always in its strongest mode…

After the novelty had worn off… and that special sweetness has dissipated.. you have to find reasons and ways to keep the relationship alive..

You are now emotionally invested.. you lost some of the attention.. those with insecurities will tend to feel neglected.. lose their confidence… and start to have all the negative thoughts possible…

But…

What do you do to retain your status.. and not push away the party with all kinds of petty.. childish and immature behaviors…

Two main virtues that is required … in my personal experiences and in my opinions.. is…

Trust and Sharing…

Yes they are lots of other attributes needed…such as… understanding…. patience… self love… confidence…and trusting his love…

It’s pretty hard when it’s a close personal relationship… when life takes over.. it’s hard to adjust when one partner doesn’t have the time for another .. and their time is totally consumed with everything but you….

All the wrong emotions surfaced .. you started to question everything… doubts became a second nature …. you began to fear losing…, fear of rejection… your bubbly personality is replaced with doubts… and distrust..

Some walked away prematurely.. because they fight with their hats…

Some push away and shut out… the other… then build a barrier around themselves….

Those who don’t have the courage.. or can’t find the strength to leave.. stay and bring misery to the relationship.. and no matter how much the other try to persuade them that it’s all good . They refused to believe .. and can not be convinced to change their thoughts…

Eventually…. the relationship can’t withstand the pressure and fall apart…

Then there is the scenario of a long distance relationship… this is where sharing and trust plays a vital and crucial role in the relationship…

It takes a vast amount of trust to make this relationship works … and good communication is the only connection… sharing each other worlds..is all there is…

And everything is perfect as long as there is open communication..

But..

What happened when one partner decided to stop… become evasive… stop having time for the other… they can be seen online.. but they are not connecting with the other…

This is where trust has to be applied with extremity … but how do the affected party deals with this on a personal level…

They are aware that they can’t control what the next do with the distance in between… they have to be practical and somehow logical.. that they are not the only thing in their life….so they have to give room and space to allow them the freedom…

I guess you just have to make up my mind to share them and their attention…. Sometimes… and fully applied your Faith of trust..

they have to learn that there’s so much more to their life than just communicating with them….

You can’t get too selfish.. with them… because all you really have between you.. is sharing and trust…
and you have to trust them explicitly …
And continue to do so .. unconditionally …

You have to give them space to have fun and fully enjoy their other connections..

Yes.. it’s gonna hurt your feelings… and you might feel a surge of jealousy..

But you have to suffer in silence.. pretending you are strong … give them the impression that you truly trust them.. let them think.. what you don’t know won’t hurt you…

Let them have their laugh…

Time will tell… you may have to walk away eventually… but don’t do it too immaturely…

Take time to make sure they have fully lost all interest and it’s just not a case of being too busy. Too tired.. just need some alone time..

Don’t be too hasty and impulsive… you might live to regret your choice… and don’t voice your negative concerns…

Change nothing… Nothing will change…

We do let our minds and thoughts sometimes take control of us … but we need to block out all negative emotions.. especially if they are just circumstantial… and not concrete evidence…

Exercising trust is very vital to any and every relationship…

Sharing is also essential.. because then each will be assured… and build better trust..

The sunset 🌅 from above…

3 thoughts on “TRUST AND SHARING…..

  1. It can be a real challenge as dynamics in a relationship change.
    I know with Simon…I had to find the balance of reining in my enthusiasm over him (because he did not want a long-term commitment) and making it clear to him that I wanted to keep seeing him. I did not want to make him run for miles, so I had to find ways to make him keep wanting to see me. Somehow in that process a strong bond was forged. The level of trust and sharing and intimacy deepened, the sex became more ardent and passionate, we were becoming entwined.
    I have mentioned a little about how Simon moves overseas which I thought would be the end of the relationship, but the surprise was that after he moved, he kept texting and emailing and calling. In fact it was a wonderful surprise. I went over to see him and stayed with him for a few weeks. It was wonderful. We became even closer during that time. But we also agreed that the distance was a killer. He made it clear that when he wanted company he would be ringing one of the women in his “little black book” and that he wanted me to date other men and be prepared to fall in love with someone else.
    We are still in touch, we email regularly. He is part of me and will always will be. There is a bond that will always be there, which I am grateful for. The bond with my first boyfriend was severed for a while. We later made peace and became on good terms. But I cannot bear a complete breakup, so I wanted so much to maintain a friendly rapport.

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    1. Ooh my dearest jenna…

      I do understand exactly what you had and how you tried to keep him interested…

      I just wish I had that option right now..

      I’m losing my emotional affair..
      Because It has run out it’s course…

      He has become bored 😐. I am now stale..

      I no longer hold his interest… and he’s not to be blamed really…
      we have been playing a game of fantasy.. ( my latest post)…

      Which now has crumbled…

      I’m still in contact with him. ..
      he never fully ignored me..

      But his interactions are very limited…

      You are so much like me..

      I have stayed in contact with all my exes. As long as they are willing to….

      Thank you for reading and being understanding of my story..

      So appreciate you relating to me your experiences and how you try to make it work…

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